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Welcome to This Week's You Are Destined For Greatness
So hey, so here's the—deal, in personal improvement and personal progress, I mean, we're out there, we're trying, we're trying to make things happen, we're trying to do better, be better parents, be better for ourselves and the people we're close with.
And you ever heard the idea like, "Hey, you need to fully accept yourself. You need to fully, fully love yourself." That's what you need todo to get all this done. Yet at the same time, you're supposed to do better, everything be okay.
Like you're—so how it, to me it seems like a conflict. If you ever felt this way, like, kind of like it feels like that you're being instructed in personal development to kind of accept, fully accept where you are, accept the accept everything, even if you don't like it.
The Internal Conflict of Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement
And so to me, this has been a conflict. And maybe you can relate that when you're not happy with the results, that you're being told to fully accept them anyway, and it just feels wrong. It's kind of hard to do. It's like, how do you resolve all this inside of your head?
If you've ever felt this way, and I know I've struggled with this a lot, okay? This week's podcast is all about it. I encourage you to check that out. And also, things like this are things that we talk about in Stable Living Coaching all the time because here's the deal—these things, they make a difference. They make a difference in our outcome and our results.
My Personal Struggle with Acceptance
I rejected this idea for a long time. I grew up with tough guys, man—my dad and cowboys. I mean, it's either get the result or you don't, and you don't have to like anything about it until you get the result.
So if you're gonna pretend that you—you know, it's like you're giving yourself a trophy and you haven't even won the game yet. You see what I'm saying? And so I flat rejected the idea that I should fully accept myself when I wasn't happy with what I was doing or when I wasn't happy with my position, whatever progress I was at at the time.
What I Discovered Over Time
What I found over a period of time, and it's been a progress, is that the more that I actually accept those ideas at a research base that we need to fully accept ourselves, the more I opened up this pathway, this clear path to actually get the result.
I didn't know the self doubt and the frustration I had about myself is what was holding me back.
In order to get this here's one key you can look at it this way - You can say what if my child didn’t reach their goal? How would we treat them? Were not like I'll love you when you get that goal, but not until, Mr. or Mrs. Of course we wouldn't, right?
We fully accept them for wherever we are. We encourage them to go forward and get their potential regardless of what they've done or what they haven't done or where they're at or whether they've got their goal or not.
The Parenting Parallel
If you can flip that lens and begin to look at yourself that way, what you do is you eliminate all this negative self-doubt and the negative feelings about what you're thinking about what you've done or where you're at, and it clears the way for faster progress.
Final Thoughts
It's a big concept. For me, it's been hard to get. I hope you're at a good place on it, and if not, we have lots more resources about this and so much more.
Thanks for being with me today, and remember, You Are Destined For Greatness.
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